The topic we’re exploring this week has been a tricky one for me in the past, and I wonder if it has been for you, too. In these days of hyper social media awareness, I’m thinking it’s pretty common.
The topic? Being happy for other people. Anybody struggle with that from time to time? You know how it goes, an acquaintance or friend gets the job or promotion, the dream house or vacay or finds the love of their life…….. and you come across their post on facebook.
Now, if the thing they’re celebrating is something you already have and enjoy in your life, it’s much easier to be genuinely happy for someone else. However, when the new bright thing is something that you don’t currently have but desperately want…..Mmmm….being truly happy for them can make summiting Everest seem like a cake walk. But here’s the thing –
Everything is energy and energy is everything.
This is really important to understand so I’m going to say that again: everything is energy – your shoes, your dog, your coffee, your coffee cup, are all energy.
And energy is everything. Energy is always giving off a vibration. Now there is a large range of vibration, from the lowest of fear, up through despair, anger, snarkiness, satisfaction, contentment, joy and love. Fear is at the low end, love at the high end.
So the anger or jealousy that we feel when we see someone enjoying what we want is the energy or vibration we are projecting about that topic. Metaphysically speaking, the very thing we want to manifest we are pushing away with the force of our vibration. Does that make sense?
What’s the remedy then? Is there a workaround for the distinct feeling of lack, and how do we ever breech the gap to feel happy for someone else when we just feel sorry for ourselves? Let’s take this leap in 2 distinct steps:
First – try thinking of everything in your field of awareness – all things you see in your 3d world and online, as a catalog. Life is showing you all the circumstances, people and things that you perceive. Think of how you respond when you see something that you’d love to have in a catalog – do you get mad that you don’t already have it or do you go oooooh, wow, I’d love that! When I started experimenting with this idea, if I saw something I really wanted but didn’t have, I would smile and say, “Yes, please!”
When the vibration you’re giving off is one of appreciation and love, you are lining up with your desires! It might seem strange, but that’s the science of it. I invite you to give this a try. It’s simple really – whenever you see something that would ordinarily make you feel sad/mad/jealous, pretend you’re seeing it on a catalog page, and think of how much you’d love it. Smile. Smile and say yes please, or oooh, I love that, then let it go and see what happens.
Step 2 involves cultivating feelings of happiness for another person. This can be challenging, even when it is someone close to us, someone we care deeply about. But know this – we live in an abundant Universe!
Our society would have us believe in a world of scarcity, but that’s not the case. For example, if you knew of someone who was sick, chronically sick and suffering, and you were enjoying robust health, would you try to get sick so they could get well? Of course not. Your being well does not in any way take away from their chance of regaining health. And it’s like that for money, opportunities, love, whatever!
My very wise mom used to say this about love, but it applies to everything else too, Love is not like a pie that is divided into a certain number of pieces. If someone else comes to the party, then someone will get less. Not so. Rather, love is like a well. There’s always more. Just as you can love so many people with all your heart, there is that level of abundance for everything. To put this more concisely, no one has to lose for you to win.
We live in an abundant Universe, and it is my wish for you that you know deep in your heart that there is enough love, money, friends, adventure and knock your socks off joy for each of us.
If you would like help on this subject or any other aspect of your life that is leaving you feeling stuck, please reach out to schedule a FREE 30 minute session to explore how working together would support you in your journey.
