Babies. They are so tiny and noisy and needy. They are also so perfect. We each enter this world in that noisy, needy, perfect state, trusting our needs will be met and that life is good. As we grow into toddlers and children we learn so many lessons that inform our thinking and our choices. Most of those lessons are helpful like, don’t let Mom brush your hair when she’s mad at Dad, and legos don’t flush.
However along with the useful lessons, so many of us learn an errant one – that we are not worthy as we are. We entered this world as a perfect little bundle of love, but somewhere between cutting teeth and going out for the soccer team, we lost that perfection, that worthiness; or rather we believe that we did. Unfortunately that lesson gets filed along with the useful and true ones, and it has profound and lasting impact on our lives going forward.
How does this false lesson show up in our lives? Basically there are two ways it hinders us in creating and enjoying our life experience.
First, when we believe we are not worthy as we are, it is in essence like jumping on the hamster’s wheel; we run and run and run after worthiness but never feel like we truly ever get there. If we do land the job or the title or lose the weight, the sense of worthiness usually doesn’t last long, because that belief is still there in our psyche whispering, “Nice try, but not enough.” If we are unaware of this gnawing need to earn our worthiness, it can set us up for a lifelong struggle and it greatly curtails the satisfaction and joy we can experience.
There is another more harmful way this false lesson can impact us as we create our lives, and that is the belief that not only are we not enough or worthy, but that we are bad. Logic holds that people that are bad need to be punished, and so it follows if we are bad, then we must be punished. This reasoning does not take place in the light of conscious thought, but below that, off the radar in our unconscious mind.
Punishment can take many forms, like sabotaging relationships by driving caring people away from us, or clinging to unhealthy habits of substance abuse, and more. A darker version of the hamster wheel, and just as unrelenting.
But hang on……here’s the good news.
That perfection and worthiness we had as babies never really leaves us. It is not diminished if we fail the class or lose the job, or do something mean, because it is not dependent on our actions. It was given to us by our Creator. One of my favorite lessons from A Course In Miracles states in lesson 97:
Spirit am I! A holy Son of God, free of all limits, safe, healed and whole,
free to forgive and free to save the world.
So how does this resonate with you? Do you believe you are worthy as you are this red hot minute? Know that with all your perceived mistakes and shortcomings, the worthiness you owned as an infant is still there, shining, perfect and immutable. It is who you are.
If you would like some support in reclaiming your worthiness, feel free to reach out to schedule a life coaching session. It is my mission and my passion to assist people in owning their worthiness and power to create the life they desire.
